Short answer to a long post
[QUOTE=Master J]
So my key question is, can I return after this experience. [/QUOTE]"No."
Be happy you didn't marry her. If she had been smart in pulling off the scam she would have had you down at the courthouse for a quickie wedding, shortly thereafter she would have bruised herself, called the police, and had you arrested for spousal battery. Add in a few more calls to the police for your "stalking" after the judge put you out of your own house for her "safety." She would then have collected at least half of what you own, if not more.
Consider yourself lucky she was just a dumb whoare, not a smart grifter.