Words of Wisdom: Always negotiate!

I'd like to throw my two cents worth in to this topic. And give it a refresh for 2010. Let's face it, life is about negotiation. When dealing with working girls (or Non-Pros) it's always going to come down to a little give and take of some kind.

The three elements of a business contract are:

1. Price.

2. Time.

3. Inclusions / exclusions.

If you can come to an agreement on these three elements before you commit. Then you will both have a mutual understanding, respect and ultimately a much better time together. All of these elements constitute a deal, and separately each can be varied to suit each others needs.

Now I speak as much Spanglish as I do Vietnamese, Finnish and Papua New Guinean. A good negotiator uses body language to their advantage regardless of their linguistical expertise. The most important principal is control. Either you have it or the girl does.

Some tips that I have picked up along the way:

1. Talking price, if you don't like the price she initially quotes, then it's time to make sure that she see's your eyes stray to other girls. Even if they are all butt ugly and you really want this one. She does not know your tastes in girls. And by loosing eye contact with you she is starting to lose control.

2. She won't budge off her price, it's time to talk length of time for the money she's quoting (even if this is something that is not of value to you) $$$pesos is that for the whole night and the next day? If she thinks you are expecting that for the money she is charging, then she might reconsider the amount. Even if you only want her for 10 minutes she needs to think your expectations are much higher.

3. Again, if 1 & 2 are non-negotiable then this is your final Ace. So you need to make sure that what you are going to get is of value to you. BBBJ, photo, video etc. If this fails, then you both know where you stand and politely back down. Remembering to look at other girls or the exit.

The pointy end of the stick. Back at the apartment. The negotiation continues right up until you have your happy ending or two or three. Again it's about control and making sure that the attention is focused on you. I learnt very quickly that YOU put on music, rather than the girl turning on the TV. If she has the remote then you will be banging a dead fish that is focused on the latest Merengue video clip and will be constantly changing channels. Until you get her away from the idiot box and into bed.

Never say this is your first time to BA, always say that you are visiting a family member who lives here and owns a business. Again another potential client base for her. End result, she needs to please.

Never say this is your last night / week, always say that you will be here for at least a month even if you are catching a plane in two hours. In her mind you are going to be repeat business if she honours her end of the deal and treats you well.

The compliment technique is also a useful negotiation tool for relaxing and building rapport with a girl, which in turn leads to making sure that it's a pleasant experience for all. Warning, this needs to be used correctly and at the right time. If she has a boob job, then it would be appropriate to compliment her on the investment she has made, if she does not have one, then saying that it's not important to you will make her more at ease, the ass or face is the next best place to complement. Girls know when you are saying it without meaning or as a by the way comment, so make sure it's relevant to the girl. It's no good telling a girl they have a beautiful smile when they have crooked teeth. They know they have crooked teeth.

In the end, this is still strictly a business transaction. Even if you get the GFE. Of course she loves you and respects a man that is paying her money for sex.