Looking for a cool chick for 1st experience

My situation is a little unusual, so I hope somebody might be able to recommend someone for me, even though the last person on here who asked for a recommendation was really not helped at all as so many just said, go and try a few, which made me hesitate to ask any advice on this forum even though surely the whole point is that we can help one another by sharing our experiences.

I'm a 46 year old widower (English) My wife died suddenly last year and after 20 months, I feel I really need to get back in the water so to speak.

To be honest I think the first time is going to be difficult, so I'm looking for someone who has both the looks and sense of fun to make it fun, but who also is pretty sensitive and understanding.

(To those who think escorts can't be sensitive, I can only say from years of working with girls in the adult industry, you are wrong. Sadly that was thousands of miles and ten years ago, so it doesn't help me here and now.)

Anyone any ideas?

I speak so-so Spanish, enough to get by.

Also, can anyone recommend a dating service (pref online) as apart from just needing sex, I'm also feeling it's time to stop accepting being lonely and start looking for someone new.

Brian

Gabi from Cattos, she is professional no doubt but if the money is right will be whatever you want including sensitive to difficult times. She lived in Miami for awhile and her English is ok. Went through a loss myself last year and I did just what your talking about with her. Also Romina from Cattos not very sensitive, but fun as hell. She fucks like a pornstar and I defy anybody to be thinking of another woman while they are in bed with her.

Christina I think is here name, Punter help me out if I'm wrong, from Exedra. She just loves sucking dicks and is also very affectionate.

Too bad Jessica is back in Paraguay, she would be great as well.

Your request is a little different from the last person, hope this helps.

Brigrove,

I suggest you consider a different South American country where it would be easier to find what you are looking for. Think about going to Peru.

Here's an idea,.

Pick out someting attractive from your perspective on the internet, or better yet from Roxana's stable, since she knows them.

Then call Roxana and tell her your interested in some Fantasy role playing. Theres a lot of girls that are into this. Explain to Roxana just exactly what you looking for, possibly even offer a little extra money for a really convincing role playing service.

Tell her you need "Healing" as well as sex. Since you speak OK Spanish you should have a Ball, don't get married though.

Exon

[QUOTE=Daddy Rulz]Christina I think is here name, Punter help me out if I'm wrong, from Exedra. She just loves sucking dicks and is also very affectionate. [/QUOTE]You're correct her name is Christina, she does not speak English but it won't matter because she won't be talking much anyway.

My opinion. From what you've described, you have a big hole in your heart, and human nature being what it is, you are looking to fill it. Looking at this from a clinical perspective, if you are a reasonably attractive and normal man, you should have no real problem finding a nice woman who will treat you and (I'm assuming) your kids well. I'm only a few years younger than you, and more than one of my regular girlfriends has described her ideal man as being a young widower whom she can spend her time making happy. And frankly, I have a face that can stop a clock, but I have no problem whatsoever attracting all kinds of desirable women. So much so that I have to beat them off with a stick. Once a woman gets into her mid 30s and doesn't have a man (or finds herself divorced and without one), she gets desperate. Which explains why they like me so much. ;)

If you spend your time chasing whoares, chances are you'll find one - but not for the intended purpose, which is just sex. You'll end up falling for one of them, and the results will not be pretty.

My 2 pence of advice - forget about hookers and focus on a real girlfriend.

Brigrove,

I would tend to agree with Hunt. In fact, your ambition to have non hooker sex with a hooker might actually be a way to avoid (in italics) exactly what you think you are looking for. The sex act, though it can be daunting with a new woman after 20 months of celibacy, is nothing compared to again developing a relationship where intimacy is involved. I think you are barking up the wrong tree. Try some casual dating for awhile just to be in the company of women, and see where it leads. And, beware of the Paul McCartney syndrome- getting enamored of a new woman who looks like your deceased wife, and then getting "fucked" royally. Good luck.

Brig, I think this is a perfect thing for you to do, just don't fall in love to fast. Nothing can replace your loss, so don't try to. Just go out with a few girls have some fun and keep it casual. I know a few people who are in your situation and the try to get back what they lost right away. They get dissappointed because they can't find the whole package right away. You should be able to find plenty of women to have a nice time with, dinner, shows anything you like. Have a good time.

Thank you for all your advice.

I may try some of the dating sites for a while FIRST, then see what happens (or nothing)

I don't have kids by the way, my wife couldn't have them, so she left me with a refuge full of dogs instead to look after!

All though I agree with Doggboy & Hunt in that an escort might not be the best for you in the long run, I still think I understand you.

An escort can do the trick of boosting your confidence and get you going and into being intimate with another persson again.

And I think thats what you really are looking for in order to be open for a new relationship or whatever.

Hope you find what you are looking for.

All the best.

N

Don't know enough about your own situation. Are you here for a a while or just on a short visit and then back to England? Anyway it seems to me you're looking for two different things. Some nice friendly sex to get back into practice, as it were and then a longer term relationship leading to something more serious. If you are after "sensitive" p4p sex I. E. Real girl friend experience, then England is a great place right now, if you can afford it. For £100 to £150 you can find have your choice of great looking English, EE or Asian girl, all of whom speak perfect English. It takes a bit more effort to find what you want in Argentina but is a lot cheaper, if a lot less predictable, than UK. However, if you have the time, BA is one of the great sex destinations of the world. Speaking some Spanish helps a lot. Would have to agree with the point made by others on this board that girls who speak good English are best avoided. Even if you speak some Spanish it is worth learning some of the local version, especially the vos form and common words and expressions like Dale, Barbero, re bien, como andas etc.

If your looking for a more meaningful relationship and are going to be here for a while then I your best bet is to start learning the Tango. The Tango scene here is huge and still growing. If you can dance Tango, then on any night of the week you can go to dozens of venues and meet attractive and usually well educated 30 something and 40 something Portena women, most of whom are divorced or separated and on the lookout for a new partner. If you have a fetish about high heeled shoe and stockings (and who doesn't) then you are going to love Tango. As one of my American friends said to me after watching his first BA Milonga (Tango dance venue) "I have seen the future and it isn't on the golf course". When you get back to UK you can go on dancing Tango and meet more women in the ever growing Tango scene in the UK. And the great thing is you can keep on dancing Tango till you die. That's what keen Tangoeros do here. There is one slight snag however, it does take time to learn. Six months to a year of lessons and serious practice. But hey when you look back on it in ten years time you'll wonder why you hesitated.

I'm not going back to England, I've lived here for almost five years and hablo castellano más o menos.

Whether it's más o menos depends who I'm speaking to jaja.

Sometimes a bus driver doesn't understand me when I give the destination which is strange as usually the other passengers DO. Yet today I had a long conversation by phone with a representative of a bank (although I didn't understand every word she said, I understood most)

I live in Zona Norte, between Garin and Tortuguitas and work every night except Wednesdays in the Capital.

The reason I'm thinking of an escort is partly because if I am lucky enough to find someone daft enough to love me, I don't want to put her through my probably inevitable bad reaction the first time we do anything.

Any suggestions for that?

Also, to be honest my hopes are fading of ever finding anyone, partly due to lack of time working 6 nights a week and travelling almost 6 hours a night to / from work, and partly as the only time I went to a tango class (in Escobar) it was full of either MUCH older women OR teenagers and in fact there were more men than women.

I've tried dating sites recently, the most contacts came through latinamericancupid. Com, but many of those were from other countries despite my profile saying ONLY Argentina (in both Spanish and English as their on-site translations are pretty awful)

And most of those replies were from older women too. Ideally, if it's not too late (I'm now just turned 46) I'm looking for a woman young enough to have a family (and I don't mind if she always has kids)

Anyone any other ideas for dating sites or other ways I can meet women here?

Brian

It really looks like your main problem is time, and if you don't have that - and you don't, 9 hrs work plus 6 hors travel is 15, leaves 9 out of a day in which you sleep, eat and brush your teeth - your options are very limited. As long as your daily routine is as it is, your only chance is chat somebody up in that f***ing bus you spend most of the day. Or dating sites, but surfing the net goes off your sleep (or your work)

Also, this routine leaves you very little chance to build up and maintain any relationship, a lady wants to spend time with you doing all kinds of things from going to dinner to just sitting at home chatting or watching TV over a glass of wine - important, with you. To me it seems, that if you seriously seek a new relation, you will have to change your life habits, I. E. Get an apartment closer to your work or a job closer to where you live. I would take the apartment in town, 15 minutes of Subte instead of 3 hours by bus or whatever.

And forget about your concerns to have to perform. If a women really cares about you, she will accept that you are a person, not a robot. And to help boost your confidence, buy yourself some blue pills.

If you are not shit ugly, you should have good chances to meet someone. As an Englishman, you are "exotic" enough to attract the ladie's curiousity, on the other side you speak bastante castellano to comunicate - what do you want more.

And in the meantime, some WG's are a good oportunity to get your system going again. Not only the part between your legs, but also the whole "how I get along with an attractive female" thing. Many of them are used to be treated like shit by most of their (Argentine) customers. Treat them like your GF, and you will often enough get BF treatment back.

Don't just f***ing give yourself up. You are too young for that.

Pooh, that was not 2 centavos, that feels more like 2 pesos. I hope they help.

El Alemán

I only work 6 hours a night, plus 6 hours travelling so that uses up 12 hours not 15, though 12 hours is bad enough!

I had one piece of slightly good news, they may be changing shifts so we'll work 4x7 and 1x8 instead of 6x6, which will be great.

The travelling time IS a problem, but as I have the animal refuge which my wife left me to run (needs very little time but can't just be abandoned) I have no choice on that right now.

The dating site I've had most replies from is latinamericancupid. Com, but over half of them are from other countries.

The Argentina women supposedly want a relationship, but seem to want to chat online and not even meet up - I find it easier face to face with my Spanish! (Mi castellano no es exactamente perfecto jaja)

Given that I'm not that great looking I was surprised how many responses I did get, even if at least one lost interest when I made it clear that, NO, I am not planning on returning to England in the near future.

Brian

Brian,

I hear you, being in a somewhat similar situation. I agree with the other poster who pointed out that the greatest constraint is your time. Your wife left you an animal refuge and that requires a daily commute of several hours?

Again, having been in a similar situation, there are somethings that have to be severed. You might be in the process of doing that already, or you might be like me and only slowly realize that living your life and enjoying it has a considerable value and purpose as well as that of the animal refuge.

That the cause is good does not mean that at a certain time it must come to an end or that your duties must remain as they are forever.

I can't be in Argentina until next year at the earliest. At least you are there.

As for the chica whose interest declined after learning you are not ready to return to the UK in the near term, well you have thinned the herd.

Happy hunting.

This makes things a little better, but still time seems to be your major constraint, as also 65 remarks. Also, having a zoo at home is not always helpful. Nothing against a cat or 2 (soooo cute! But you still might consider some serious changes in your life.

Good luck,

El Alemán

Yeah, I'm not too disappointed about the one who lost interest for that reason, figured she was only interested in a passport to UK / Europe anyway.

I suspect there's quite a few like that They'd be less interested if they knew that wives of Brits don't qualify automatically for citizenship anymore and haven't since the 1970s. Lol.

As for my zoo, my wife couldn't have children, so the animals became her life's work, it was also her life's ambition anyway. They were like family to both of us. If I could find good homes for them fine, but that's unrealistic - we managed to rehome TWO in three years! And most refuges here are hellholes. I could never forgive myself if I sent them there, not that most would accept them anyway as they don't have enough money to feed those they have now. Apart from the fact it would be a betrayal of everything Sheila and I had to simply abandon them.

Brian,

You may be better joining a local church and finding peace on mutliple fronts and a decent chica. [or] post a question on / for / about mongering buddy.

If you still have too many tough questions, you are in the wrong forum.

But I would wonder if you don't keep that crazy schedule so you can't have what you're saying you're looking for. 15 hours a day, working and traveling crimanitlies, even our dear departed brother Dickhead couldn't find time for putas or nonputas with that schedule, and once I saw him choose a hooker over a beer. Just once mind you, but it shows how much he likes pussy.

Also as much as it pains me to agree with Hunt, he's right, if you hook up with any reasonably proficient professional I do believe she would divest you of most of your earthly treasure, you'll fall, she will take, it's what they do.

Try Amigos.Com I've meet a bunch of highly qualified prospects there.

I decided to visit a massage place and after reading threads on here picked Brisa's apartment.

I wasn't too worried about whether it finished in sex or not, I was out to enjoy myself and I certainly did.

Please excuse the duplicate part below as I posted it in the thread about Brisa's apartments (seemed only fair to do so)

I went to Brisa's last night around 730pm.

I was shown three lovely girls.

The basic price for the massage was quoted as $70, or $100 to include hydromassage. Well I paid the $100, but unless a shower counts I didn't get the hydromassage.

But believe me I wasn't worried. The girl I had chosen (and it was hard to choose) was Abril. She gave a long thorough massage then asked me if I'd like her to wear less clothes. Of course I said yes.

She stripped to her panties and I had a great time as she gave me a great handjob, lots of caressing both ways, she likes her nipples sucked and wasn't averse to being fingered.

She quoted me an additional $50, though I gave her $60. I was there well over an hour and had a great time.

The only thing is I can't remember the names of the other two lovely girls I was shown, one began with A, the other, a little darker, with C.

I can't find them on the website either. If anyone knows who they were, please let me know.

A great time and worth every centavo.

Brian