Looking for a cool chick for 1st experience
My situation is a little unusual, so I hope somebody might be able to recommend someone for me, even though the last person on here who asked for a recommendation was really not helped at all as so many just said, go and try a few, which made me hesitate to ask any advice on this forum even though surely the whole point is that we can help one another by sharing our experiences.
I'm a 46 year old widower (English) My wife died suddenly last year and after 20 months, I feel I really need to get back in the water so to speak.
To be honest I think the first time is going to be difficult, so I'm looking for someone who has both the looks and sense of fun to make it fun, but who also is pretty sensitive and understanding.
(To those who think escorts can't be sensitive, I can only say from years of working with girls in the adult industry, you are wrong. Sadly that was thousands of miles and ten years ago, so it doesn't help me here and now.)
Anyone any ideas?
I speak so-so Spanish, enough to get by.
Also, can anyone recommend a dating service (pref online) as apart from just needing sex, I'm also feeling it's time to stop accepting being lonely and start looking for someone new.
Brian
Friendly girl for P4P sex or long term relationship
Don't know enough about your own situation. Are you here for a a while or just on a short visit and then back to England? Anyway it seems to me you're looking for two different things. Some nice friendly sex to get back into practice, as it were and then a longer term relationship leading to something more serious. If you are after "sensitive" p4p sex I. E. Real girl friend experience, then England is a great place right now, if you can afford it. For £100 to £150 you can find have your choice of great looking English, EE or Asian girl, all of whom speak perfect English. It takes a bit more effort to find what you want in Argentina but is a lot cheaper, if a lot less predictable, than UK. However, if you have the time, BA is one of the great sex destinations of the world. Speaking some Spanish helps a lot. Would have to agree with the point made by others on this board that girls who speak good English are best avoided. Even if you speak some Spanish it is worth learning some of the local version, especially the vos form and common words and expressions like Dale, Barbero, re bien, como andas etc.
If your looking for a more meaningful relationship and are going to be here for a while then I your best bet is to start learning the Tango. The Tango scene here is huge and still growing. If you can dance Tango, then on any night of the week you can go to dozens of venues and meet attractive and usually well educated 30 something and 40 something Portena women, most of whom are divorced or separated and on the lookout for a new partner. If you have a fetish about high heeled shoe and stockings (and who doesn't) then you are going to love Tango. As one of my American friends said to me after watching his first BA Milonga (Tango dance venue) "I have seen the future and it isn't on the golf course". When you get back to UK you can go on dancing Tango and meet more women in the ever growing Tango scene in the UK. And the great thing is you can keep on dancing Tango till you die. That's what keen Tangoeros do here. There is one slight snag however, it does take time to learn. Six months to a year of lessons and serious practice. But hey when you look back on it in ten years time you'll wonder why you hesitated.
Thank you, slight correction
I only work 6 hours a night, plus 6 hours travelling so that uses up 12 hours not 15, though 12 hours is bad enough!
I had one piece of slightly good news, they may be changing shifts so we'll work 4x7 and 1x8 instead of 6x6, which will be great.
The travelling time IS a problem, but as I have the animal refuge which my wife left me to run (needs very little time but can't just be abandoned) I have no choice on that right now.
The dating site I've had most replies from is latinamericancupid. Com, but over half of them are from other countries.
The Argentina women supposedly want a relationship, but seem to want to chat online and not even meet up - I find it easier face to face with my Spanish! (Mi castellano no es exactamente perfecto jaja)
Given that I'm not that great looking I was surprised how many responses I did get, even if at least one lost interest when I made it clear that, NO, I am not planning on returning to England in the near future.
Brian
Thinning the herd and zoo
Yeah, I'm not too disappointed about the one who lost interest for that reason, figured she was only interested in a passport to UK / Europe anyway.
I suspect there's quite a few like that They'd be less interested if they knew that wives of Brits don't qualify automatically for citizenship anymore and haven't since the 1970s. Lol.
As for my zoo, my wife couldn't have children, so the animals became her life's work, it was also her life's ambition anyway. They were like family to both of us. If I could find good homes for them fine, but that's unrealistic - we managed to rehome TWO in three years! And most refuges here are hellholes. I could never forgive myself if I sent them there, not that most would accept them anyway as they don't have enough money to feed those they have now. Apart from the fact it would be a betrayal of everything Sheila and I had to simply abandon them.
How about joining a local catholic church?
Brian,
You may be better joining a local church and finding peace on mutliple fronts and a decent chica. [or] post a question on / for / about mongering buddy.
If you still have too many tough questions, you are in the wrong forum.
Doggboys the shrink not me
But I would wonder if you don't keep that crazy schedule so you can't have what you're saying you're looking for. 15 hours a day, working and traveling crimanitlies, even our dear departed brother Dickhead couldn't find time for putas or nonputas with that schedule, and once I saw him choose a hooker over a beer. Just once mind you, but it shows how much he likes pussy.
Also as much as it pains me to agree with Hunt, he's right, if you hook up with any reasonably proficient professional I do believe she would divest you of most of your earthly treasure, you'll fall, she will take, it's what they do.
Try Amigos.Com I've meet a bunch of highly qualified prospects there.